Change is the only constant thing in this life. A lot of social changes is taking place every now and then and all we have to do is adapt to the changes.
Traditionally a man is supposed to chase after a woman, propose to her and marry her if she agrees. A lady would be weod by many men and all she has to do is choose one. That way she will preserve her pride and dignity.
Things have changed now. Some women no longer wait for men to come to them. They actually go after the men they like and tell them how they feel. In some instances, it is the guy who ask the lady out first and then the lady may decide to propose marriage to the guy.
She will buy a ring and kneel down and pop the question ‘Will you marry me’ to the guy. It is up to the guy to say yes or no to the proposal. At first men didn’t like this idea at all. That would be the end of your relationship.
Looking back at how things were done a very long time ago, women would only show interest but the guy will ask the for the lady’s hand in marriage if he is interested in the girl too. Women never verbalized their feelings to men. You would be tagged cheap for doing that.
Women only had to do something to get noticed by the men they like. It could be being extra nice and respectful to the guy or just finding a way to be close to them so you can start bonding.
Nowadays, men and women are equal so what a men can do a woman can do. It feels good to open up about how you feel to someone you like. But it may not be so good if they don’t feel the same way. Some men feel insulted and they will treat you like you have committed the worst crime ever.
They may feel offended and disrespected. It most likely hurts their ego. So, if you ever decide to propose to a man, you should be prepared to handle rejection. If you are already close to the man of your choice just try to find out their take is on the issue before you, do it.
Woman do this for different reasons including going after what they want before it’s taken or just to show independent they are.
Whilst we are agreeing that there is no problem with women proposing to men, we should keep in mind that the dynamics of a marriage are still intact. There always has to be a head of the house and that should be a man of the house. We can never change that. Any attempt to do so results in a divorce.
So, ladies, you can go ahead and propose to your men but bear in mind that he still needs his respect and his position in the family. Once you make him feel like less than a man then the union will break. He will go where he feels respected.